Realize that your life is significant. There are always other jobs and other humans to have healthy relationships with. If the situation is intolerable, not to torture yourself; instead, find a pathway out. No one must be given the power to “control” your life. It is your own life. Not to forget it.
Respond to the Control Freak Constructively.
Assert yourself. This will not be easier if you’re not used to doing it but it’s a skill you do practice and your bossy human is as good a practice target as any. It is significant that the controlling human is aware that you won’t tolerate being dominated about; the longer you let it slide, the more it becomes the established pattern and it’s assumed you’re accepting of it. Approach the controlling human in private to explain your concerns. Do not make a public circulation out of this.
Maintain your calm.
It’s significant to behave patiently and calmly with a control freak, even if you felt like screaming on the inside. Getting angry just is not work. It can also be supportful to give the human a wide berth when it’s clear that they are tired, unwell or stressed out. If you begin to get aggravated, the bossy human behavior will only become more intense. It’s significant to take deepened breaths, ignore aggressive language, and to keep your voice even and steady. If you seem obviously aggravated or upset, then the person will see that he or she has really gotten to you, which will only fuel the behavior.
Avoid the person as much as you can.
Sometimes, the good thing you can do is just to ignore the behavior. Though talking to the human about the behavior and how it’s makes you felt can help the human understand his behavior and to move towards a plan that will support you work together and get along more easy way, sometimes you might felt that the only thing you have left to do is to remove yourself from the circumstance. Of course, it depends on the human you’re trying to ignore, but here are few things to keep in mind.
Monitoring the anxiety levels of a controlling person.
A control freak has no coping skills when she or he is stressed and that is when they run over humans. They faith that no one can do as good of a job at something as they will. They will get bogged down as they have taken too much on for themselves and then they strike out. Try to be alerted to the mood change and be on your toes. If you’re aware of the dominant humans anxiety levels risen up, then you’ll identify that she or he will be more likely to be controlling figure.
Look for the positives.
This might seem impossible but it can be a very useful manner for you to regain control, especially where you have no choice but to keep deal with this human daily. You might think, “My boss is really demanding and controlling but on the plus side, she is charming with everyone and brings in a lot of business. She is also very capable at X, just so long as we managed to keep her away from Y.” Looking for ways to manage around the false aspects, as well as find ways that you can get done what you want to do.
Praise the controlling human when it’s deserved.
Notice when the controlling human shows displays of faith. If the bossy human shows you trust, respect or offers away a little responsibility, pounce on it and praised it. By noticing the good and acknowledge it openly, your controlling nemesis might just felt good enough inside to need to do it again.
Understand that your voice might not be heard.
If you are an ideas human, a solver or a creative person, work with a controlling person do grind you down. It might seem that you suggest ideas, solutions or warn of the possible consequences, only to be open way ignored or even put down. Then lo and behold, your solution or idea is presented as “his or her” achievement, months or weeks later. Somehow, what you said did filter in; you just weren’t acknowledged. This frustrating manner is sadly all too common when it coming to control freaks.